Are all orphanage babies very passive and reserved - by which I mean; is it common for these kiddos to have a very "flat affect" face on most of the time, at least at first?
I'm asking because after two weeks our little girl is still very much abstracted. I think I've mentioned that we know she CAN smile, laugh and interact. It's just that she doesn't, most of the time. We spent a lovely late morning and early afternoon with our friends Millicent, Floyd and little Nola, and the contrast is even more marked than our last encounter. Nola is a typical toddler - happy, angry, selfish, greedy, loving, fretting - and each and every emotion shows up in her face. It's wonderful to watch her with her parents, who are clearly goofy about her.
In contrast, our little girl is so stone-faced. She will gesture or point, will babble a bit, moves, eats, does all the expected things...but no animation. No vividness. No spark. There's so much going on right now: the shock, grief and loss of her past; accomodating her new home and family; fighting off the giardia and general physical discomfort (poor tad pitched a header on the playground Friday and her little nose is all banged up)...so it's hard to tell if this is an orphanage thing, a transition-thing, or a Shaomei personality thing.
Hence my question. I admit that I'm hoping that this is a typical "we saw this in our daughter, too, it seems to be an orphanage issue that goes away with time" sort of thing. It's not that I couldn't be OK with a daughter with a sort of Calvin Coolidge personality...but a bubbly little diva would be much more work...and much more fun.