Sunday, December 24, 2023

In the waning of the year

 ...the little group here at the 1922 House is still, well, being who we are.

There's still four, although this may be the last winter of that. The Girl is looking hard at four-year schools. She's been accepted at University of Minnesota at Minneapolis...

Father: Do you know anything about Minnesota?
Daughter: It's...ummm...in the Midwest!
F: Have you looked at the climate records for Minneapolis for, say, the past ten Februaries?
D:
F:
D: No?
F: Then I highly recommend you take a look. You might be surprised. Not saying that should change your mind if you really want to go. But you might want to know.

She's battering her usual bullrush way into her senior high school year, both in academics and in all her usual avocations; theater tech - she's the Sultan of the Soundboard - and ceramics and the Asian Student Group. She's a fighter.


This was last year, but it still works. That's her.

On the personal side she's who she's been; salty wiseass, meticulous, impatient, cynical. She seems too busy for relationships and so far as we can tell has no particular preference in that. We're pretty comfortable with who you want to pursue, so if the Girl is not conventional in her preferences I suspect she'd be upfront about it...so the lack of up-fronted-ness suggests that's not a thing, Yet.

The Young Man (I can't really call him "The Boy" anymore; he's an adult even while his sister retains a lot of "Girl") is, well, who he's been, too. He's taking classes at the local community college and is doing well there; GPA 3.7 when last seen.

For some odd reason he seems to be gravitating towards earth science/geology. Dunno how seriously to take that. I've told him he's a legacy at Portland State University for geology, if he is thinking of going that route. He seems unimpressed.


He's still gaming multiple hours in the day. He also still games his unique way, which involves lots of shouting and screaming, cursing, and (now and again) making literal monkey noises, which always makes me bust out laughing. Whatever happened to the stereotype of the dudebros gaming in silence broken only by occasional grunts?

(FWIW, when I showed her these last year my Bride winced at his. "A little too on-point..." was her comment.)

As for the Bride:

She's still "Miss Debra", beloved School Secretary at Astor Elementary.

A little sadder because her equally-if-not-more-beloved Work Wife Miss Chris retired at the end of the 21-22 school year. Still grouchy about how the District is being exceptionally shitty towards the clerical staff and paraprofessionals represented by her union.

Busily sewing, including her side-gig technical editing for the "Seamwork" line of patterns.

But slowing down, just like I am. She's eyeing retirement, which I simultaneously understand and dread, since what we'll do with both of us around this place all day I have no idea...

And me?

Older. Slower. A bit more creaky - surprising how little arthritic buildup it takes to make joints uncooperative! - and less speedy.

The contract work I was doing last spring and early summer finally ended and the outfit that hired me, after a couple of abortive offers, has faded out. My old employer still throws me a bone now and again, but that, too, appears to be waning.

My Guard retirement is a lifesaver; it's surprising how far $1,200 a month will go if you only spend it on things like gas and the occasional book. I'm thinking of cutting the Social Security wait short and applying at 66-and-a-half this spring - frankly because I think the fucking Republicans will run the table next fall and the plutocratic sonsofbitches will raise the qualification age to 70. It knocks the payday down significantly, but locks it in so keeps the greedy bastards' dickbeaters off it.

Otherwise I have lots of time to read. I've also been binge-watching stuff I've missed before, ranging from oddball anime to movies and serial shows. 

I'm still plugging away at kendo, despite being the slowest and clumsiest kendoka in the dojo. What's really frustrating is that the proper kamae, the basic fighting stance, demands an upright position; back straight, head up.

My back is...not straight (see "arthritis", above). I have to constantly think about my posture, which doesn't help when I'm trying to whack someone with a stick (or not get whacked...).

It's good training for me. But I spent years being as strong if not stronger and faster than my peers. It's very humbling to do the things your body did handily once only to find that that body is no longer as responsive.

Then there's the whole "kitchen and bathroom remodel" thing...but that's for another day.

Hope this brings us all up to date. Gotta go wrap some presents not; back in a bit.

9 comments:

Leon said...

Merry Christmas Chief!

mike said...

Merry Christmas. Stay healthy and happy in 2024.

Stjohnspock said...

Chief, happy incipient New Year too.

We're of similar age and vocation--including ending up more in the engineering end of dirt and construction than the intellectual geologizing we both were hoping for. Another similarity--I almost enrolled at PSU hoping for a MS in some geo field. The weather drove me away before I did that though. Also the shitty job at a plastics extruder in Lake Oswego sweetened the exit.

Worry not about your two kids (I have two as well, 'bout the same age). They're born with an increasingly heavy keel which makes most of them right-their-ship unless they've had their sail twisted round the mast by shitty parents. Again, not to worry.

Cortisone and ibuprofen--life improvers.

FDChief said...

Thanks, guys!

Re: the kiddos...I'm concerned for the Scion because I see a LOT of myself in him. And I wasted way too much of my young-adulthood fucking around, and that in a time and an economy that was a LOT more forgiving. I still ended up well less-well-off that contemporaries who figured out how to work and study as undergrads and got that advantage that stayed with them through their lives.

Don't get me wrong; I don't regret my life. But in purely economic-security terms I did myself no favors. And, again, I had a lot easier time of it finding work and keeping employed (and well employed!) with no college debt that he will. His window of opportunity is much narrower and his path steeper than mine was.

He's gonna be who he's gonna be. I can't change that. But I can wish he'd make life easier on himself.

Pluto said...

Hey Chief, I live in the Minneapolis area and the temps are no longer what the record books said. Still probably a shock to somebody from the Pacific Northwest, but a lot more survivable than they were 10+ years ago. The biggest problem now is drought and heat.

I've been through the stage with the kids that you're going through now (my youngest is 27) and it sounds like you and they are doing pretty well even though it doesn't feel like it. I understand your concern for your son. My younger son had similar tendencies and clinical depression on top of that. It culminated in his getting a Bachelors in Art and a Minor in Creative Writing.

He wasn't then surprised when the perfect job didn't come running up to him, but he was really annoyed at how hard he had to work to get any job and how crappy the jobs could be. We put up with him waiting for 2 years to get a permanent job while he did several temp jobs that he hated and said, 'Never again!'

Finally, when he had a BIG cushion of money and what seemed like an acceptable job, we kicked him out of the house. He found a good roommate situation but lost his job. It took him 9 months to find the next job but he sorted out things in his head, which was badly needed. Part of the problem turned out to be that his mother also has clinical depression and the depressions were feeding on each other.

Now he's got a job that he doesn't like but can stand and a plan on how to get to a better place career-wise. He's also a lot more mature and is overall happier. He's still got some growing up to do, but something like the end goal is in sight and we're happy for him.

I'm not saying that your son will have a similar experience, just that its possible.

FDChief said...

With the Young Master I think there's some additional stuff going on there. He's got some headspace issues that I think are related to ADD/ADHD that makes it difficult for him to deal with Complex Life stuff. Hopefully time will help with that.

I got lucky; bumbled my way through college (with a lot of parental patience and financial support) so when I joined up I was old enough to avoid the typical "stupid private" mistakes, then got enough maturity and discipline in the service to profit in my grad school period. AND got lucky in getting hired by the right outfit.

That's...a lot of good luck. Obvs I hope he gets that, too...but it's a lot to count on.

Pluto said...

Yeah, my son was borderline autistic as well and VERY focused on stuff he was interested in and won't focus on anything else. To this day he eats about 8 foods but he rotates the foods about every 3 months. Back in the day, we took him to a nutritionist and were startled to discover that he's (barely) getting the necessary vitamins and minerals.

raddog said...

Hope you had a merry Christmas. I've been trying to catch up on your posts. I finished my 22+ "good" years in the Guard. Between tricare for life, my "retired pay", SS which I took at 62 and dipping into the investments for "big ticket" items ( property taxes, bigger trips etc. We don't know how long we have, I retired early because I could and because I'd lost several friends either just before they retired or very shortly after they retired. Take the SS and run.

FDChief said...

Raddog: I hope that I'm keeping busy enough to avoid the "retires and drops dead" thing. I agree that it's a danger and I've tried hard to avoid it.

So, yeah...I'm gonna grab the SS in April when I'm fully vested. The monthy comes to something like $2.7K, so between it and the retired pay we're looking at roughly $48K/yr, which should see us through until my dirt nap.